Wednesday, October 24, 2012
duh!
dude, I have been so clumsy and retarded the last couple of days. at first i thought i was just like zoney from being over tired or something (it was Saturday) but over the last 4 days I have been bumping my head on everything, including my desk at work (! don't even ask) and dropping stuff. I swear every time I grab for something I almost just knock it over. It's kind of funny :p
Thursday, October 11, 2012
assume
my work is really giving me quite a lot of material these days. here's another pet peeve for you.
people who assume things. not the kind of assumptions that everyone does, the annoying stupid ones that are asking for an eye roll. for example: my coworker leaves to run an errand. Within 30 seconds a different coworker returns to work, having just passed by the lady leaving. He walks in and says to me..
'so, (blank) is gone for the day then?'
to which i respond (already completely annoyed) 'ahh, no... she's just running to rio rancho real quick.'
he says 'oh, hahah real quick?! so she'll be back then?'
to which I respond 'dude, it's only 1 o'clock. it's not like rio rancho is that far away!'
annoying!! when this woman is away from her desk (i.e. in the bathroom), he'll come up see her empty chair and walk over to me and say 'so (blank) is gone for the day, then?' UM I don't know! Is her computer on? Is her purse sitting there at her desk? Have you tried to page her? what the hell!!? Why act like there is such finality to a situation like that. When someone leaves work (around lunch time) most of the time they're returning. In fact, this particular guy goes to and from work about 50 times a day. I wonder what makes people like that. And I wonder what it must be like to live with someone like that. Where every action has a predetermined outcome...thought of by him. ridiculous and totally annoying!
people who assume things. not the kind of assumptions that everyone does, the annoying stupid ones that are asking for an eye roll. for example: my coworker leaves to run an errand. Within 30 seconds a different coworker returns to work, having just passed by the lady leaving. He walks in and says to me..
'so, (blank) is gone for the day then?'
to which i respond (already completely annoyed) 'ahh, no... she's just running to rio rancho real quick.'
he says 'oh, hahah real quick?! so she'll be back then?'
to which I respond 'dude, it's only 1 o'clock. it's not like rio rancho is that far away!'
annoying!! when this woman is away from her desk (i.e. in the bathroom), he'll come up see her empty chair and walk over to me and say 'so (blank) is gone for the day, then?' UM I don't know! Is her computer on? Is her purse sitting there at her desk? Have you tried to page her? what the hell!!? Why act like there is such finality to a situation like that. When someone leaves work (around lunch time) most of the time they're returning. In fact, this particular guy goes to and from work about 50 times a day. I wonder what makes people like that. And I wonder what it must be like to live with someone like that. Where every action has a predetermined outcome...thought of by him. ridiculous and totally annoying!
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
soliciting
Ok - I'm only writing about this because it's come up twice in the same week and I kind of don't get it.
So as a parent, one takes on additional extra responsibilities and volunteer opportunities on behalf of your kid. some of these are in the form of helping at a school functions, providing cut fruit for a dinner or buying cookies from the school's bake sale/catalog fund raiser. This goes with the territory. It's mildly annoying but we do it so the kids feel a sense of community with their school ... helping them in the long run feel involved and giving them some interest in participating with larger ideas later in life. I do these things. I sponsor my daughter's laps during her jogging fundraiser every year, I take on serving food at the spaghetti dinner and I'd even help make props for an event if asked. What has never crossed my mind is sharing this voluntary and time consuming obligation with other people...like co-workers and extended family.
It's one thing to bring the candy bar box to the office and ask people to buy a treat for a buck, or asking (very involved) grandparents to sponsor an extra .50 cents a lap for the joggathon but it's very different (in my mind) when these things are opened up to a larger group.
For example: A woman at my job has kindergarteners. She signed up to help build props for a PTA haunted house at their school. She has decided that it's too much work once looking at all the other activities that she wants to do this month..and work, so she sent a work-wide email asking if the staff would help her do what she volunteered for. She wants other people to stay up late making models and halloween shit so she can take their craftsmanship to her children's school (which we don't even know the name of) and claim the credit of being such a helpful room parent! Completely ridiculous!!! This kind of thing WOULD NEVER even enter my mind as a way to handle an overloaded schedule!
Next example, and this one is mildly more acceptable, but also something that wouldn't even occur to me: My sister-in-law had her son write an email to family and friends asking for lap pledges for this school's jogging fundraiser. See, it's a little more acceptable. But what gets me is that, I just did this for my daughter...already spent $1 per lap, and I DIDN'T ask any other people or family to participate. Because it's supposed to be your commitment to your child and their school. It's not so much about money...I mean everything is, but I'm not trying to raise 5000 $ for my kid's school, I'm trying to show her that I support HER. I don't need a fucking parade to show her my support her and her school.
So as a parent, one takes on additional extra responsibilities and volunteer opportunities on behalf of your kid. some of these are in the form of helping at a school functions, providing cut fruit for a dinner or buying cookies from the school's bake sale/catalog fund raiser. This goes with the territory. It's mildly annoying but we do it so the kids feel a sense of community with their school ... helping them in the long run feel involved and giving them some interest in participating with larger ideas later in life. I do these things. I sponsor my daughter's laps during her jogging fundraiser every year, I take on serving food at the spaghetti dinner and I'd even help make props for an event if asked. What has never crossed my mind is sharing this voluntary and time consuming obligation with other people...like co-workers and extended family.
It's one thing to bring the candy bar box to the office and ask people to buy a treat for a buck, or asking (very involved) grandparents to sponsor an extra .50 cents a lap for the joggathon but it's very different (in my mind) when these things are opened up to a larger group.
For example: A woman at my job has kindergarteners. She signed up to help build props for a PTA haunted house at their school. She has decided that it's too much work once looking at all the other activities that she wants to do this month..and work, so she sent a work-wide email asking if the staff would help her do what she volunteered for. She wants other people to stay up late making models and halloween shit so she can take their craftsmanship to her children's school (which we don't even know the name of) and claim the credit of being such a helpful room parent! Completely ridiculous!!! This kind of thing WOULD NEVER even enter my mind as a way to handle an overloaded schedule!
Next example, and this one is mildly more acceptable, but also something that wouldn't even occur to me: My sister-in-law had her son write an email to family and friends asking for lap pledges for this school's jogging fundraiser. See, it's a little more acceptable. But what gets me is that, I just did this for my daughter...already spent $1 per lap, and I DIDN'T ask any other people or family to participate. Because it's supposed to be your commitment to your child and their school. It's not so much about money...I mean everything is, but I'm not trying to raise 5000 $ for my kid's school, I'm trying to show her that I support HER. I don't need a fucking parade to show her my support her and her school.
Monday, October 8, 2012
chit chat
For a really long time i was an over-sharer. If someone asked me a question I'd give them a response followed up with enough supporting information to write a book with. I have this way of thinking where the details and back-story really impact the main point of a story, so I'd go waay back to the beginning...every time.
Well, obviously this was not only super annoying to my listeners who were hoping for a reasonable answer to the question "where'd you go to college", but I realized that I wasn't learning anything from the people I was meeting. After a half hour conversation with someone they'd know where I was born and how my parents met but I wouldn't even know where they worked or where they were headed that day. I figured that descriptive story telling was a flaw in my personality. So, I stopped doing it. For the most part anyway.
Now I try very hard to listen and give short answers. I don't offer up a whole lot of information about myself or my family (unless I've been drinking or I'm in a super bad mood.) I mean, I bitch at home to my husband about family annoyances or whatever, but I guess my gripes are pretty minimal when talking to other people. I recently realized this because I was having lunch with a client and I started talking about my family, due to the need for conversation topics. Although I don't like the comparative style conversations where you counter everything with "Oh, I did that..", there is a certain point where you have to be able to relate to someone. She client was discussing some family/life stuff and, in an effort to sympathize, I did some divulging.
All my talking gave her a chance to eat her lunch, but I felt a little stupid by the end because I'd indulged my personality flaw. To my surprise she thanked me. She said it was nice to hear about my family and the dumb stuff...it made her feel like her life wasn't so unusual.
I guess that my outward appearance conveys a sense of normalcy...not that it's not normal but I guess people don't know where I'm coming from. I don't talk about things that bother me or get me heated because no one wants to see all that...but I guess I'm being pretty surface-y sometimes. I don't know, it could just be that I don't know this client very well and although we've known each other for a while we aren't super personal with each other.
I don't know, but either way it made me think.
Well, obviously this was not only super annoying to my listeners who were hoping for a reasonable answer to the question "where'd you go to college", but I realized that I wasn't learning anything from the people I was meeting. After a half hour conversation with someone they'd know where I was born and how my parents met but I wouldn't even know where they worked or where they were headed that day. I figured that descriptive story telling was a flaw in my personality. So, I stopped doing it. For the most part anyway.
Now I try very hard to listen and give short answers. I don't offer up a whole lot of information about myself or my family (unless I've been drinking or I'm in a super bad mood.) I mean, I bitch at home to my husband about family annoyances or whatever, but I guess my gripes are pretty minimal when talking to other people. I recently realized this because I was having lunch with a client and I started talking about my family, due to the need for conversation topics. Although I don't like the comparative style conversations where you counter everything with "Oh, I did that..", there is a certain point where you have to be able to relate to someone. She client was discussing some family/life stuff and, in an effort to sympathize, I did some divulging.
All my talking gave her a chance to eat her lunch, but I felt a little stupid by the end because I'd indulged my personality flaw. To my surprise she thanked me. She said it was nice to hear about my family and the dumb stuff...it made her feel like her life wasn't so unusual.
I guess that my outward appearance conveys a sense of normalcy...not that it's not normal but I guess people don't know where I'm coming from. I don't talk about things that bother me or get me heated because no one wants to see all that...but I guess I'm being pretty surface-y sometimes. I don't know, it could just be that I don't know this client very well and although we've known each other for a while we aren't super personal with each other.
I don't know, but either way it made me think.
Thursday, October 4, 2012
bossy
so, my sissy is dating this really bossy guy. not that i don't think she needs a little bossing every now and then, but he's very critical of her as well. from what i can tell, it's not in a hostile way or even in a mind-fucking kind of way like a past ex of hers...but i don't think a relationship consisting of constant evaluations and criticisms is a healthy one. i'm sure i'm only hearing the more dramatic stuff and none of the sweet nothings he's whispering..or even anything about the regular every day kind of normalcy that goes on.
i've spent my life trying to provide helpful suggestions that she's completely resistant to. this guy comes along and within months she's jumping every time he says to. now, let me reiterate that i think it's good that she's getting her shit together, regardless of who is being the inspiration, but I don't like guys who are very demanding and not reciprocating. he criticizes her house keeping (yes, worth criticizing sometimes) but he's never invited her over to his place, ever. please! i'd be like "not another word from you on my housekeeping until i see what pile of laundry you're sleeping in." he doesn't hang out with her friends or go out socially when he's invited. he will take her out a million times over to every other place that she'd never normally go..probably so she won't run into anyone she knows, and only on his terms. i just don't like that kind of monopolization. she eats it up like candy though, and all i can do is tell her how i don't like that part of him. not that i know that much about him since i've only laid eyes on him twice ever. one day maybe she'll stop making excuses for him and tell him to participate in her regular every day life a little.
i've spent my life trying to provide helpful suggestions that she's completely resistant to. this guy comes along and within months she's jumping every time he says to. now, let me reiterate that i think it's good that she's getting her shit together, regardless of who is being the inspiration, but I don't like guys who are very demanding and not reciprocating. he criticizes her house keeping (yes, worth criticizing sometimes) but he's never invited her over to his place, ever. please! i'd be like "not another word from you on my housekeeping until i see what pile of laundry you're sleeping in." he doesn't hang out with her friends or go out socially when he's invited. he will take her out a million times over to every other place that she'd never normally go..probably so she won't run into anyone she knows, and only on his terms. i just don't like that kind of monopolization. she eats it up like candy though, and all i can do is tell her how i don't like that part of him. not that i know that much about him since i've only laid eyes on him twice ever. one day maybe she'll stop making excuses for him and tell him to participate in her regular every day life a little.
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